“No one else makes us angry. We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude. What someone else may have done is irrelevant. We choose, not they. They merely put our attitude to a test.” – Jim Rohn
I read this quote today on a friend’s website and it really resonated with me. Just last night I was trying to tell a loved one the very same thing.
We have a tendency to want to place blame when someone does something to make us feel a certain way. The stark reality is we feel that way because we have allowed ourselves to –
… to stoop to that level
… to wallow in our self-pity
… to be hurt again
… to lose control and lash back
We are the only one’s responsible for how we feel. It is up to us to consciously choose our reactions to situations and keep our emotions in check, right along side our attitude.
Hurting someone back,
failing to forgive,
demeaning another person,
diminishing our own self worth
… means we have failed the test.
It’s your attitude problem. It’s the one thing you can immediately and directly affect.
If you mess up, say you’re sorry. They never have to accept it. No one else has to change … but you can.
It’s your life.